1. Each person lives from the inside out. Happy people are those who are very clear about what they believe in and what they stand for. Your true values are always expressed in your actions and behaviors. By the law of correspondence, your outer world will tend to be a mirror image of the person you are inside. Clarity regarding your true values is essential. What are your three most important values in life, right now?

  2. What are the three things in life that are most important to you? The answer to this question will always be the three things—people, activities, and ideas—that trigger the strongest emotions in you when you think about them or talk about them. What are they?

  3. Your best qualities have taken you many years to develop. They are essential elements of your character. What are your three best qualities as a person?

  4. What three personal accomplishments in your life are you most proud of? Your answer to this question will tell a lot about yourself and will be a good indicator of your real values and what is truly important to you.

  5. What three skills or abilities are you the best at? These are usually the main reasons that you have been successful in your job or career. What are they?

  6. The ‘‘Law of Three’’ says that if you analyze a list of everything that you do in your work, you will find that three activities account for fully 90 percent of the contribution you make to yourself and your company. Much of your material success in life comes as a result of doing these three things more and becoming better at them. What are the three things that you do in your work that account for most of the contribution you make?

  7. In your work life, you have had ‘‘peak experiences’’ where you have accomplished something noteworthy. In most cases, these achievements were the result of hard work, persistence, and the application of your very best talents and abilities to the accomplishment of a specific result. What have been your three biggestsuccesses in your career?

  8. You have special talents, abilities, and temperament that make you different from anyone else who has ever lived. It is when you use all three of these together in a task or job that you get the most pleasure from your work and achieve the best results. What are the three best jobs, or parts of jobs, you have ever had?

  9. What three job activities give you the greatest satisfaction? These are probably the activities that enable you to contribute the very most to your work and your company. Whatever gives you the greatest feeling of self-esteem is a good indicator of what you should be doing more of.

  10. If you were forced to take an extended period of time off from work and you had the money to do anything you wanted, how would you spend the time ? Where would you go and what would you do?

    Your answer to this question is a good indication of what you should be doing more of in the future.

  11. What are the three worst experiences you’ve had in your personal or business life?

    The answer to this question will be your most stressful and frustrating experiences, causing you major losses in time, money, and ego. But these three negative experiences have probably been some of the greatest learning opportunities of your life as well.

  12. What are the three biggest mistakes you’ve made in your life?

    These mistakes will almost invariably be decisions you made or failed to make as the result of fear or ignorance. Very often, if you are not careful, they will be major sources of regret that can hold you back from doing or trying new things in the future.

  13. It seems that every lesson you learn is accompanied by pain of some kind—physical, mental, emotional, or financial. The mark of top people is that they look into every problem or difficulty for the lessons it might contain. Sometimes, these lessons become the stepping stones to greater success later in life. What are the three most important lessons you’ve learned in your life or career?

  14. What are your three biggest worries or concerns right now?

    The greater clarity you have in answering this question, the more capable you are of taking action to resolve these worries or problems. Many people are unhappy, insecure, and distracted because they are not clear about the situations in their lives that are causing them stress or distress.

  15. Who are the three people, living or dead, whom you most admire?

    You always tend to admire or even love people whom you feel have values, virtues, and qualities that you most aspire to and would like to have in yourself. The answer to this question often tells you more about your deepest values and the qualities you would like to develop.

  16. Who are three (or more) people you care about the most?

    The answers to this question will help you to remain focused on what is truly important to you—the key people in your life. Throughout your life, and especially in times of transition, you often take these people for granted. As a result, you do not give them the attention and treat them with the affection, respect, and courtesy that you should. Who are they?

  17. What qualities in other people do you most admire?

    The qualities that you most admire in others are usually the qualities that you most aspire to have yourself. The greater clarity you have about these qualities, the easier it is for you to practice them whenever they are called for.

  18. What three words would you like people to use to describe you to other people when you are not present?

    1. Think back: What have been the happiest moments of your life?

    2. What do you most enjoy doing in your spare time?

    3. What advice would you give your child or close friend who wanted to be successful in your field?

    4. What is your best talent or skill; what are you really excellent at doing?

    5. What one quality would you most like to develop in yourself?

    6. What is the most important business lesson you have ever learned?

    7. What is the most important personal lesson you have ever learned?